“How do I find my soul mate”? “How do I recognize my soul mate when I meet him or her?” “What, exactly, can I do to attract a soul mate?” These are the most popular questions my coaching clients ask me. I answer these questions the same way each time. “Master the art of loving, and everything else will fall into place.”

So many of us assume that true love is what we see in movies and on television. In Hollywood films, the hero and heroine meet, fall in love, have a falling out and unite in the end to live happily ever after. At Valentine’s Day, for example, love is measured by how many diamonds, flowers, greeting cards and chocolates are purchased for the loved one. Women especially focus on their physical appearance with Americans spending more than $12 billion a year in cosmetic procedures. Sure these methods may bring a superficial, fleeting type of love, but it’s not the avenue to true, lasting, spiritual love.